Life is often filled with unpredictable and unexpected events and we may feel we don’t have the resources to respond appropriately to adversities. This prolonged pandemic has deeply impacted our psyche and soul, it has altered our daily habits and now we are being denied the warmth of a natural physical contact.
In times of uncertainty and isolation, underlying dormant anxiety, fear, instability, powerlessness and despair can re-emerge. This is especially the case, if we grew up in families with unsafe and insecure attachment or where our boundaries were violated and disrespected.
As a therapist my role is to assist people who are afraid, hurting, feeling their lives out of control and with no faith in themselves. My work centers around restoring emotional stability. Through collaborative exploration I help people find their own resources, strengths and self-trust.
Most difficulties that manifest in interpersonal relationships are in fact problems we have with ourselves and in essence are self-worth issues.
Over the past 40 years I have helped people both verbally and physically to reconnect to their bodies. The physical work, which has no sexual connotation of any kind, involves gentle and light touch on specific points of the connective tissues within the body. With the reawakening of the body’s life-energy and with many small courageous actions, people progressively regain the capacity to care and love themselves.
Couples usually come to therapy when they feel misunderstood and hurt, when negativity and resentment has taken the place of empathy and compassion.
My work consists in providing a structure and an atmosphere where they:
– can share their hurt
– see the other person deeper and feel their hurt
– each take responsibility for their part in the conflict
– if they want to, find a way to repair and resolve the fracture in their relationship.